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Viewing Learn How to Love Yourself into a Magical RelationshipLearn How to Love Yourself into a Magical Relationship
By vcoach
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The basis for a magical relationship begins and ends with you. That's right! Intrigued? This article explains the secrets to transforming your relationship into the magical one you have always wanted. Do not waste another minute! Most women go through their entire lives never learning how to get what they truly want from a relationship. Many end up losing their relationship simply because they did not know what to do or say to save it. This is an absolute mistake! Why? Because if you do not gain the knowledge and the wisdom to create a magical relationship, what makes you think it is going to be different the next time around? Chances are it probably will not! You see, the basis for a magical relationship begins and ends with you. That's right! However, you have been so busy trying to transform your partner into Mr. Right that you have forgotten to look in the mirror! While you have been consumed with the futile task of transforming your mate into a compassionate, caring, loving, understanding, and romantic man, you have neglected to ask whether you possess those qualities. When you get right down to brass tacks, we attract relationships based on the sum of who we were, who we are, and what we believe. Therefore, if you want to attract a magical relationship, you must become it - period! Examine your own beliefs! What fears and insecurities are preventing you from evolving into a confident, loving, kind, and caring woman? Do you have a fear of intimacy or abandonment? Do you have a difficult time trusting others? Do you feel inadequate or unworthy of having a magical relationship? Do you really love yourself completely and unconditionally? Bottom line, you are what you think you are, and that is what you will attract. If you do not love yourself, how can anyone else love you? Love is giving in a relationship, but only when you can first give it to yourself! Begin by describing all of the qualities that you would like your partner to possess, then compare them to your qualities. Do not make excuses! Be honest with yourself! If you continue to blame your partner or others for the void that you have in your life, you will continue to attract more of the same. Once you have made an honest, comparative analysis, then you can uncover the fears and insecurities that are preventing you from evolving. I have listed them below: • Fear of intimacy • Fear of control • Fear of abandonment • Fear of inadequacy • Fear of control • Low self esteem These self-limiting beliefs are held in your subconscious mind and limit you from getting what you really want in life. In this case, what you really want is a magical relationship. However, the relationship of your dreams has eluded you and is currently slipping from your grasp because your fears and insecurities have nearly driven it off the cliff! Without question, negative, self-limiting beliefs are the direct fundamental cause of a relationship crisis, but the fears and insecurities that accompany them are the primary drivers. As an example, Sandy meets Bill, and it's a match made in Heaven! It is pure bliss! In fact, Sandy and Bill believe they are soul mates. Bill is kind, loving, passionate and romantic and attends to Sandy's every need. Well, Sandy and Bill get hitched in what seems to be a magical relationship. However, after a few years, the magic starts to fade and the problems begin. It turns out that Sandy has suffered from a fear of abandonment most of her life because her father left when she was the tender young age of five. Bill suffers from a fear of rejection that was perpetuated by his alcoholic father. As Sandy's insecurities begin to surface, she requires more and more attention. She begins complaining that Bill has not been giving her the attention he once did. Unrelentingly, Sandy continues to demand more and more from Bill, until he reaches the breaking point. Bill senses that things are going awry, and decides to end the relationship before Sandy rejects him completely. Because Sandy failed to address her fears and insecurities, she relied on Bill to fill an emotional void. "She, who relies on others to fill a void in her own life, builds a house of cards on shaky ground." You see, self-love is the rock-solid foundation for every magical relationship. However, it is virtually impossible to embrace self-love if self-limiting beliefs are standing in your way. Best wishes, David Roppo The Relationship Rehab Coach About the Author: If you would like an exact plan for saving and transforming your relationship, subscribe to my free e-guide and audio programs, available at http://www.visionquestlifecoaching.com. Article Source: 1st Rate Articles - http://1stRateArticles.com |
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