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Viewing Seduction, Dating and the Friend ZoneSeduction, Dating and the Friend Zone
By Julian Foxx
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I'm about to radically redefine your perception of what the friend zone is. It isn't something you should fear, it's something you should embrace. The friend zone is your friend ... Bear with me ... Many times, I have listened to guys in The Pickup Community talk about how the 'friend zone' is to be avoided at all costs. Most of the time the very term itself is uttered in low whispers: 'Stay out of the Friend Zone..' I am going to try to alter totally how men think about the 'friend zone' in general. Stop concerning yourself with its potential dangers, and start thinking about its benefits. It's time to befriend the 'Friend Zone.' Read on... A while back, I met a very hot redhead named Amy at a club. We really seemed to hit it off and I got what I considered to be a solid number close. Our first date was set. We ended up meeting for drinks a couple of days later at a local bar when I noticed something strange happening; no matter what I tried there just wasn't much magic happening. Truth be told, regardless of how skilled you become, it is impossible to mesh perfectly with 100% of the ladies you date. So what now? This is where a little solid calibration comes in handy. I think what some guys would do (and rightfully so btw) is to 'plow' through and keep trying to build the attraction and escalate with her until either a) you succeed and she starts to comply or b) you fail and she rejects you. Sound familiar? So there we were sitting together in a plush leathery coach and I knew I was at that very crossroads. I really did want to take her home, but I was aware if I continued to escalate, that the chances of her blowing me off were very substantial. Therefore, I impulsively made the decision to try something new. I unleashed what I now call the 'Preemptive Friend zone' attack. Before she had a chance to reject me outright, I very warmly and sincerely friend zoned her first. The warmth and caring with which I did it was the key. The objective wasn't to make her feel bad, simply to feel like I rejected her first. My goal was actually to become friends with her. Let us briefly examine some of the more obvious benefits of having a hot female friend: A: She will become an invaluable feedback resource for you. Who better to answer your questions about women and dating and all that stuff than a well-practiced woman! B: She becomes your Wing. You can and should assign her the job of hooking you up with other hot girls. Sorry guys, but I'll take one of my lady friends any day of the week over the best PUA wingman. C: There is a good probability that she will start lusting after you. This is actually very likely to happen at some point. I believe the reason for this is that once we are 'just friends' with them, we release a lot of the pressure on ourselves. We no longer feel that urgency to attract them, make them comfortable, or do whatever it was that you were doing that wasn't working in the first place. I don't like cliches much, but it actually becomes easier just to be yourself. Now if there is one thing that a hot girl is not used to, it's the guy telling her first that he just wants to be friends. She will be so confused, and every bit of it is to your advantage. The trick is really to mean it. You should not use this technique and be thinking 'gonna get her in bed later, gonna get her in bed later.' Women are not stupid and she will most certainly detect if you have an ulterior motive. Just release her (at least for the time being) as someone you are pursuing and just think about the dozens of other women she will introduce you to. So I said to her, 'First of all, I think you're very chill. And you're definitely very attractive too, I just feel like we're really meant to be good buddies or something.' Pay close attention to her reaction, it will almost always be poorly masked shock. And from here, you will find that the transition to a new and mutually beneficial friendship is relatively simple. Providing you have some basic social skills, she will most likely hang out with you again simply because you friend zoned her first, and by doing so, tipped the status seesaw more in your favor. Just make sure that you are not deceiving yourself here. Are you truly behaving like a buddy would when you are together or are you still 'gamin her?' Here are a few telltale signs that indicate for me that I am really amongst friends: I burp a lot. I have lots of playful touching going on. I have no problem saying pretty offensive things. I am free to share my personal thoughts and feelings, etc... So just to sum things up: the friend zone should not ever be your goal initially. It is a last resort when facing fairly imminent failure in a courtship. That being said, you will find that cultivating hot female friends will have incredible benefits to your social life and love life as well. Have fun, Julian Foxx PS: To this day Amy is still a good friend of mine somehow, even after I dated her sister;) About the Author Julian Foxx is considered by many to be the fastest rising star in the pickup artist community. His jaw-dropping effectiveness with women is matched only by his ability to innovate powerful new techniques and dating tips for guys, giving them a ridiculously unfair advantage. To read Julian's thoughts on The Pickup Artist VH1 TV show go to http://www.julianfoxx.com/mystery-vh1. Article Source: 1st Rate Articles - http://1stRateArticles.com |
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